Relationships - Paddle of the boat
Importance of being in control of your emotions
The ability to notice your own inner dialogue, inner value and choosing emotions is empowering your power of creation and choice.
Let’s say that you look outside the window, and it is raining; in that moment you have a choice, you can either choose “It is a shame, I can’t go hiking/to the beach today” or, “That is nice, well at least the farmer’s crops will have their nutrients and the streets will be clean after.”
I am not saying forcefully always choose positive emotions and push negative emotions away. I am saying by noticing your emotions you are able to know what your true value is; and you are able to empower your evolution. (More details at the article “The concept of self love”)
The ability to notice your emotions and choose your emotions does not necessarily change the world; but instead of having the environment in control of your emotions; you are able to decide what attitude you choose to deal with the environment; and what positive change you contribute.
Think of yourself of being in a boat; you cannot control the wave. If you do not harness this power of “choice” you will just go along the wave; the environment will determine whatever direction you are pushing towards (emotional state, direction in life etc).
Once you empower your power of choice it is as if you have a paddle to your boat; yes the environment and wave will still affect your direction but at least you can somewhat decide the direction you are heading. The environment does not totally control your emotions; you can create a better experience.
How relationship works:
Similarly; being in a relationship is like two people being on two boats side by side. If each person is not aware of their self-value and able to choose their emotions, then whether or not they are able to stay together is entirely decided upon the environment. If they are lucky then the environment could make them stay together; if not then they might separate if a wave hits them bang on the middle.
If just one person can harness their power of choice; they are able to steer towards the other person’s direction, and thus the possibility of staying together dramatically increases; although the situation is still mainly being decide by the environment they are in; but at least they are more likely to stay together. Ideally, when one person knows how to empower the power of “choice” hopefully they are ably to teach the other person, and once they have taught their partner; they will be able to have their “paddle” too.
When both people are able to harness their power of choice; together they will be more stable; and they are able to overcome the waves better together. They will also be able to decide the direction they will be heading towards/rather than having the environment decide their direction for them.
The optimum state would be; both people do harness their power of “choice”; and both person’s vision overlap one another. When that happens; they can choose the direction of their future and can escape the control of the environment. Their emotional state can infinitely empower positive changes.
